Question: “How do I tell my family I’m not coming to the big holiday gathering this year? – Not-So-Jolly in Jacksonville“
Esther: You open your mouth and say it. Politely, but firmly. Try this:
“We’re focusing on a quiet holiday at home, but we’ll miss you!”
“I’ve decided to stay home this year. It’s what’s best for me right now.”
Don’t over-explain. The more reasons you give, the more they’ll poke holes in them.